After having a major fight with my boyfriend last night and then going into a state of introspection, I have realized many things. Specially the things "NOT TO SAY TO YOUR BOYFRIEND". If you are succeeded then trust me you'll have the best relationship ever. Just few good tips to follow:
1) What are you thinking?
*Never ask a guy this. You may be wondering why, girls, but really the guy doesn't need to knowing what he's thinking in his head. Besides, it's probably not anything you want him to be thinking. (eg: You think he is thinking about you, but he could really actually be thinking about the Girl Next Door, lmao)
2) Do you think _____ is cute?
*Freaking ANNOYING. They say, "HATE IT when girls ask me this!" So, girls, don't try to be his buddy if you are his girlfriend? On the other hand, if you are very tight with him then you can ask a question like this. But, if you are his girlfriend your putting him in a really bad position when you start to talk about other girls with him. Nothing good will come out of this, and the only thing you will do is end up hurting yourself because if he says.. "Oh, she is really cute..." then you will be jealous.
3) Can we talk about "defining" the relationship?
* For those of you who still don't know what define means, the best way I can put it is to "state the precise meaning." So in this case... "Can we talk about the precise meaning of our relationship." Don't ever ask a guy this because it truly puts pressure on them. It's like those used car salesmen who say, "What will it take to get you to buy this car "TODAY?" Seriously, it sucks and it's ugly. It's especially NOT FLATTERING to them and can even make them insecure. Besides, if he has any intention to continue with the relationship, you won't have to ask him this question. Trust me, guys are eager to not lose you if they like you. If they're "truly" MEN then we will be the one leading the relationship. They'll be the leaders.
4) Do you like hanging out with guys more than with me?
*All I have to say is LOL because usually when you girls ask a silly question like this, it's usually not the answer you want. If you ask a guy this, it's like him asking if you like shopping more than him.They have their own lives too, and when you keep barging into their private life then soon they WILL think less of you. Not only this, but everytime you DO ask a guy this, you only dig yourself a hole in his lies. Basically he's trapped. Even though they like chillen with their guys friends, they "literally" have to tell you "no" and that they like hanging out with YOU more. And once again, TRUST ME, they won't feel good about it.
5) Who just called?
*God, this pisses me off sometimes. Get it straight girls, you don't have the right to ask! It's out private business!! Stop trying to control them by controlling their information!! Let them have their own life too. If you give them privacy, we give you privacy. And definitely, if you ask us, we WILL BE INSECURE.
6) Where were you last night?
*To them, it sounds more like an accusation than curiousity. If they want you to know, they will tell you, if not, then live with it...it's not the end of the world! *TRUST* is the key ingrediant. When you trust someone they want to live up to that trust. So no asking him "leading questions" because remember, guys are the "leaders."
AND LAST BUT NOT LEASE...
7) Why don't you call me more often?
*ooooo, i get this one a lot. Remember, everything that behings with "why don't you" is unacceptable! You put them on the defensive with this kind of accusation. It tells them that they aren't good enough for you. As if, they aren't meeting you "needs." Let me help you girls of trap17 out tho...a better way to ask this question would be, "I really love it when you call. It's fun talking to you on the phone." This is a positive way of asking the question, and you will most likely get a possible reply back.
1) What are you thinking?
*Never ask a guy this. You may be wondering why, girls, but really the guy doesn't need to knowing what he's thinking in his head. Besides, it's probably not anything you want him to be thinking. (eg: You think he is thinking about you, but he could really actually be thinking about the Girl Next Door, lmao)
2) Do you think _____ is cute?
*Freaking ANNOYING. They say, "HATE IT when girls ask me this!" So, girls, don't try to be his buddy if you are his girlfriend? On the other hand, if you are very tight with him then you can ask a question like this. But, if you are his girlfriend your putting him in a really bad position when you start to talk about other girls with him. Nothing good will come out of this, and the only thing you will do is end up hurting yourself because if he says.. "Oh, she is really cute..." then you will be jealous.
3) Can we talk about "defining" the relationship?
* For those of you who still don't know what define means, the best way I can put it is to "state the precise meaning." So in this case... "Can we talk about the precise meaning of our relationship." Don't ever ask a guy this because it truly puts pressure on them. It's like those used car salesmen who say, "What will it take to get you to buy this car "TODAY?" Seriously, it sucks and it's ugly. It's especially NOT FLATTERING to them and can even make them insecure. Besides, if he has any intention to continue with the relationship, you won't have to ask him this question. Trust me, guys are eager to not lose you if they like you. If they're "truly" MEN then we will be the one leading the relationship. They'll be the leaders.
4) Do you like hanging out with guys more than with me?
*All I have to say is LOL because usually when you girls ask a silly question like this, it's usually not the answer you want. If you ask a guy this, it's like him asking if you like shopping more than him.They have their own lives too, and when you keep barging into their private life then soon they WILL think less of you. Not only this, but everytime you DO ask a guy this, you only dig yourself a hole in his lies. Basically he's trapped. Even though they like chillen with their guys friends, they "literally" have to tell you "no" and that they like hanging out with YOU more. And once again, TRUST ME, they won't feel good about it.
5) Who just called?
*God, this pisses me off sometimes. Get it straight girls, you don't have the right to ask! It's out private business!! Stop trying to control them by controlling their information!! Let them have their own life too. If you give them privacy, we give you privacy. And definitely, if you ask us, we WILL BE INSECURE.
6) Where were you last night?
*To them, it sounds more like an accusation than curiousity. If they want you to know, they will tell you, if not, then live with it...it's not the end of the world! *TRUST* is the key ingrediant. When you trust someone they want to live up to that trust. So no asking him "leading questions" because remember, guys are the "leaders."
AND LAST BUT NOT LEASE...
7) Why don't you call me more often?
*ooooo, i get this one a lot. Remember, everything that behings with "why don't you" is unacceptable! You put them on the defensive with this kind of accusation. It tells them that they aren't good enough for you. As if, they aren't meeting you "needs." Let me help you girls of trap17 out tho...a better way to ask this question would be, "I really love it when you call. It's fun talking to you on the phone." This is a positive way of asking the question, and you will most likely get a possible reply back.
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